One Apple A Day #217
The other night I was talking with a friend how an apparently meaningless and thoughtless choice can change a life forever.
She is walking on the side of a city street when she hears a beep from her purse. She decides to take a quick look at the screen of the phone to see who’s thinking of her. She does it plenty of times, just a glimpse, probably not even a second. In that exact moment, a driver sees an empty spot to park and steers abruptly on the right to take it. The car hits her on the side. The hit isn’t strong, just a touch. Because she’s distracted, she loses her balance and falls hitting the ground with her head.
Our life is the result of billions of choices, most of them made by someone or something else. Most of the time, unconsciously.
At first, I found this idea daunting. Realising that I’m not in full control of my life made me feel completely powerless. But the more I think about it, the more I feel liberated. It removes a lot of strain from my shoulders. If my life is not under my control, that decision becomes less of a burden. Whatever choice I have to make it’s just part of a bigger picture on which my decision plays only a part. There is no absolute right or wrong.
So, whenever I have a choice to make, I just ask myself if it’s serving me or not. Is it making me grow? Do I feel good going one way or another? And then I go?
Every choice will find its right place in the big game of life.