What is a good life?
I found this question on the website of the Goodlife Collective, and, as only breakthrough questions do, it made me think.
Admittedly, I'm still grappling with this question, yet to find a truly satisfying answer. But the process of seeking is what matters.
That is the captivating essence of breakthrough questions; they persist, even if you don't find the answer. They excavate, they fracture, and they rupture the web of beliefs and narratives that confine your reality. And through those fissures and apertures, illumination seeps in.
A few days ago, I was having a bad day. Nothing truly happened; it was just a bad day. I struggled to focus and to make any significant dent in any of the things I was working on. Some answers I was waiting for weren't coming through, and I dropped the contents of the pack with the dog's food on the floor. That kind of day.
So, my mood wasn't great, and as a result, my outlook on everything was negative. This created a reinforcing loop that was dragging me down.
And then I remember that question.
What is a good life?
I began contemplating what constitutes a good life, and while I haven't discovered a definitive answer, I realized that I already possess many of the elements that make life good. The act of introspection itself pulled me out of the slump and elevated my spirits.
This experience serves as a powerful reminder: a well-crafted question has the potential to reshape our perspectives and transform our lives.
What is a good life?
I wonder if you can be happy if your life doesn’t incorporate a drive to be of service to others. I find there’s where I find my greatest fulfilment and joy - giving openheartedly without expectation of anything in return feels like the biggest gift to myself. But I know there’s a fine line. Is the drive I feel really an egoic reliance on my perception of others’ opinion of me to fuel my sense of self-worth then translating into a ‘people pleasing’ approach to life without really satisfying my needs. And does it matter if it is?