When riding a motorcycle, your gaze must always be on where you want to go, never on where you are going.
Your eyes must point constantly towards the next thing.
It sounds counterintuitive, but it's the only way to be safe on two wheels.
If you look at where you are going, you become a passenger instead, and you can merely react to whatever happens. And, in case of obstacles, it may already be too late to avoid them. The faster you go, the more it's essential to look ahead no matter how much your fear tells you differently.
I learned that life is not so different. If you keep looking where you're going, you can only do a little more than react to circumstances. And then, you feel like a passenger in your own life.
Life happens to you instead of for you.
I have days like this where I can't look beyond what's happening to me. Can you relate?
I move through those days in constant breathlessness, with a continual sense of being late for something I can't identify. Those days are exhausting.
When that happens, I've learned that the only way to break the downward spiral is to hit the break and pause.
Sometimes, a deep breath is enough. Other times, it takes much more.
Whatever works for you.
What truly matters is to lift my gaze and point it forward.
How far ahead?
It depends on your circumstances and on who you are.
It may be a few years ahead or just a few hours.
Whatever helps you shift your gaze from where you are going towards where you want to go.
It's not easy initially, but it just takes practice, like everything in life.