Over two decades ago, I wanted to dress in an 18th-century style for my wedding. I wanted a knee-length coat that fitted closely to the body, with long, narrow sleeves. And a white shirt with long ruffled cuffs. I was in love with that historical period, and I saw a guy wearing that outfit for a wedding, and he looked gorgeous.
So, I wanted that.
With a good friend who offered to help me buy my outfit, I went to a shop specialized in wedding clothes. While waiting for our turn to be served, a guy my size and build was trying precisely the outfit I wanted.
He looked so ridiculous that we had to leave to avoid laughing in his face.
We went to another shop where I got myself a more traditional suit that fitted me perfectly and in which I felt perfect.
I still love men's fashion in the late 18th century, just not on me.
And it's the same for many things, not just clothes.
That day, I learned an important lesson. If a way of being or doing looks good for others, it doesn't mean it will be a good fit for me.
Yet, how often do we squeeze ourselves into images we see somewhere, forgetting that we are all unique?
I also learned another vital lesson.
Always try it before you buy it.