One year ago, I wrote about responsibility and how important it is to take full responsibility for any situation in my life. In these twelve months, I’ve learned that accepting 100% responsibility for my own life is not only essential to change, it is also the key to create the freedom my soul yearns for.
One Apple A Day #788 - 100%
A long time ago, I watched a video by Darren Hardy in which we asked his audience how much, in percentage, they think they were responsible for the quality of their relationships.
Most of the people said 50%.
Me too, while watching I thought it was 50%. In the end, there are two people in a relationship, so the responsibility should be evenly split.
Instead, he stated that we all have 100% of it. In any relationship - personal or professional, couple, family or team - we are 100% responsible.
It was an eye-opening moment for me.
Taking full responsibility for any situation in my life, no matter how many other people are involved, means focusing on what I can actually do to improve and make the situation better.
I can't change others, so to take full ownership of whatever is happening allows me to focus my attention and my energy on something I can do.
That doesn't mean that we can't be hurt or that we can shape everything that happens in our life. Neither that we can solve every problem.
And indeed we can't change other people, but if we take full responsibility, we have a chance to change ourselves.