One Apple A Day #429 - Be the spark
Think about a relationship of yours. One that is not working as you wish. It may be with your lover, or with a member of your family. Or maybe it's a friendship or a professional relationship.
It doesn't matter. Just pick one and reflect on the following question.
In percentage, how much the status of this relationship is your responsibility?
Zero? Fifty?
I believe the only possible answer is 100%. Yes, you are fully responsible. I know, you can't change the other person. And often you can't improve the situation in which you are. But as Viktor Frankl wrote, “when we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves”.
It's only when you take full responsibility for something that you can become the spark that ignites the change. And this is when the magic happens. When you become the spark, something beautiful and surprising manifests. New possibilities to which you were totally blind.
So, go all in, take full responsibility and be the spark in your relationships.