One Apple A Day #306
When I fail someone, two persons feel guilty.
Me and the one who has to act on my failure.
When I fail myself the guilt is double.
I am both the culprit and the judge.
And I don’t manage very well guilt.
I’ve worked in the digital/startup ecosystem for a while.
In that context failure is almost a virtue.
From a business point of view, it is a valid strategy.
A lot of time failure, in some forms, is the best way to learn and grow.
But that’s the rational mind.
At an emotional level failure can be tough.
It can bring up tough questions about our ability, even our identity.
I have never been very good at managing failures.
When I was a student, I remember the despair for a bad result.
It felt as if I wasn’t good enough.
In the last months, I am working on the difference between being and doing.
I understood that the doing may fail, and it fails.
But the being can not.
The being just is.
The key to stay centred in the middle of the storm when my doing crumbles in chaos, is to bring the focus on my being.
On who I am.
I can do wrong.
I can not be wrong.