Our choices, words and actions are driven by our beliefs. Most of which we are unaware of. In turn, our choices, words and actions create our reality or configuration, our subjective experience of life.
That's why we can't make lasting changes to our world without changing our thinking. And that requires us to become aware of our beliefs first.
Simon Sinek calls it the Golden circle, James Clear the three layers of behaviour change. The idea is that if you want to make a real change in your life, you have to start from you and your beliefs.
Last days, I reflected on how difficult it is to have conversations on critical subjects. Lately, more than ever. People get easily heated, tensions arise, and profound fractures are created even between friends and within families.
I believe one of the reasons for these difficulties is that we are talking from the wrong layer. We try to find an agreement at the more external layers - the choices, words and actions that create our subjective experience of life - while harmony can be found only at the level of beliefs. We want to convince or persuade each other about our forms or configurations without exploring our essence.
To do that, we need to embrace a process of subtraction even in our conversations.
One in which we use fewer words, so we can listen more.
Do less, so we can be more.
I wonder what would happen if we begin to uncover our beliefs and open up our essence to each other?