When you want to create a new product or service, you typically go through a design phase; then, you begin experimenting and prototyping until you get something good enough to be released into the world. James Dyson made 5127 prototypes before getting his famous vacuum cleaner.
Prototypes are experiments; as such, they are not mistakes but just steps of a learning and creative process. They help the creators move forward until they find what they want. Once you have the product, that becomes the standard on which you base the production. Anything that does not conform to the standard is considered an error and is discarded.
I believe we are all prototypes of a vast experiment called life.
An experiment led by the universe, nature, god, you name it.
Unfortunately, because we are so bright, we convince ourselves of being the final product. And so, anything that does not conform to our idea of the product "human being" is considered an error and is discarded. We make people feel wrong because they don't fit the product's standards.
But we are no products.
We don't even know what the product is, should be, or will be. As Neil deGrasse Tyson - a famous American astrophysicist and science communicator - says, "The Universe is under no obligation to make sense to you." So, we don't know what the universe is trying to achieve with all these prototypes. We have no idea what kind of product the universe is aiming for. We are just part of this vast experiment.
Everything is a prototype.
Prototypes are never wrong; they are just steps of a process. Just because we don't know where this process is heading, it doesn't mean we can assume we are at the end of it.
Wherever you are in life, whatever you are going through, you are not wrong. You are a prototype. We all are. You may well be part of a new direction in this unique experiment called life.