#1299 - just say it
A lady - let's call her Sara - told me that one of her colleagues - I'll call her Mary - came to her saying that she felt something was off between them. Mary told Sara that she was behaving in a way that made her uncomfortable and not valued. Mary hoped that Sara could change her attitude so they could work better together. All of this was entirely unexpected for Sara. She thought everything was fine between them, and honestly, she didn't know what to do differently.
They met again by chance a week later. Mary was pleased because now she could see that Sara's attitude towards her was different. She was glad she shared her discomfort with Sara.
"Who wouldn't know that I just need to say it?"
Sara, on the other side, was still surprised because she didn't change anything in her behaviours; they didn't even meet after their conversation a week prior.
Yet, Mary was right.
Sometimes all we need to get ourselves out of an uncomfortable situation is to say it out loud. When we say it, a few things happen.
We lift a weight from our chest that is clouding our perspective. Suddenly, the world around us is better, and people are different. The only thing that changed is the filter through which we observe reality, and that's all we need.
By putting things out in the open, we can see them better, gain more clarity and often discover that they are not so scary or harmful.
Finally, when we openly share what we hold inside with others, we create an invisible and imperceptible resonance that amplifies the impact of our words.